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 One thing I have always struggled with is knowing the difference between love and lust. Obviously, there are the google definitions, I mean in friendships and relationships.  A lot of my friendships start with infatuation, a whole lot of "why aren't they messaging me back immediately", "I miss them", "clearly I mean less to them than they do to me". My brain didn't seem to recognise that people have jobs and lives they can't be messaging me all the time. To me, it was like they didn't like me and they didn't want to be my friend (wasn't the case) unless they messaged me back immediately. This often caused issues for me as a kid, going through friends faster than the lunch line in primary school goes through school cake. When I grew up this started to extend to relationships, it would usually last a few weeks into a new relationship that I would get bored and walk away. It wasn't actually that I was bored, it was that I was no l...
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Can’t shower but don’t want to smell

 

Can’t shower but don’t want to smell.

 

A very hushed topic no more. I’m going to be completely honest here, I used to and still do struggle to shower. I have an activity for you. What are the steps to showering? Yours may include wash yourself after getting in, get out get dried and get dressed. Simple, right? Now lets see my list:

Step 1: turn the shower on without cold water hitting my arm

Step 2: get undressed into a cold room

Step 3: get into the shower, standing in the cold water before getting under

Step 4: go from dry and cold to wet and warm

Step 5: shower gel flipping cold

Step 6: clean everything once maybe twice

Step 7: wash the soap off

Step 8: out of the shower and now wet and cold

Step 9: dry off in time before I get cold and then tired

Step 10: get dressed, no matter how dry you are the clothes still stick to the body.

That’s a lot more steps than you thought right? It sometimes can be like sensory torture. The thing is I didn’t always feel able to shower and clean myself, but I was terrified I smelt bad. No matter what I did, it was too much sensory wise.

If you struggle too, there is no need to feel ashamed. You are human with your own brain and wiring. For example, when someone comes in from a long day at work and don’t feel up to cooking so they order in. It’s like that for an autistic person who is having sensory issues, you are human, and you will get there. Try to be kind to yourself.

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